Saturday Keynote – 19th Annual At Home Dads Convention

September 20, 2014

Barbara Colorosso – @kidsrworthitinc
Kids are Worth It

10.02

Tao of parenting.

Time
Attention
Optimism

10.01

Kids are life yearning for itself.

We do not want to control our children’s will.

09.59

Punishment is done to a child, discipline is a process.

09.54

I am I, you are Thou. Celebrate our common humanity.

09.49

“That comment was beneath your intelligence.”

09.47

Tongue Fu! by Sam Horn

Assertiveness Training

09.43

Nothing justifies meanness.

09.42

Scorpion TV Show – Monday Night, CBS
Kids who are different in their brilliance.

09.38

Depression:

Read this! http://time.com/3106170/robin-williams-dead-dick-cavett-suicide-depression/

09.25

In a technological age, kids need to be:

Cyber savvy
Cyber civil
Cyber safe

09.24

Teach kids manners not etiquette.

09.23

Don’t be discriminatory:

Tell kids to “Stand strong” not “Stand Tall”.

09.21

Do good because good is good to do.

09.17

It’s a short walk from schoolyard bullying, to harassment, to genocide.

09.15

The best compliment you can give a child is “Thank you”.

09.14

Three Cs of feedback for kids.

Comments

Compliment

Constructive Criticism

09.10

Big C and three R’s

CHORES

rest / relaxation
recreation (re create yourself)
rebellion

09.06

With toddlers/preschoolers, provide healthy foods in good quantities. Let them eat what they want from that supply.

Don’t force feed. Don’t make them finish.

09.01

Find at least one meal a day to celebrate with your kids!

08.59

Allowance is for one reason:

So kids can learn how to spend money, save money, and give to those who have less than you have.

08.54

Bribes and threats, rewards and punishments bankrupt the spirit of children.

08.54

The kid who needs a party the most, is the one who doesn’t earn it.

08.53

If the worst thing you can call a boy is “sissy” or “girly”, what is that teaching our boys about girls?

08.47

Sexual bullying is the number one form in middle school, high school, university, and the workplace.

What’s the root cause? Misogyny.

08.42

We need to be playful.

08.37

Three Tennants

Kids are worth it

If I wouldn’t want it done to me, I won’t do it to a child.

If it works, it must leave my dignity and the child’s dignity in tact.

08.36

If a parenting tool doesn’t work for you, don’t use it.

08.36

Where are you coming from philosophically, as a dad?

08.33

All I can do in an hour and a half is irritate you, but that’s what I want. I want to irritate you like an oyster. When an oyster gets irritated it either creates a pearl or dies.

08.28

Strong willed children are easier in the later teen years because they think for themselves.

08.26

Give kids age appropriate, ability appropriate choices

08.25

we want

responsible, resourceful, compassionate human beings

how do we do it?

08.24

Dads don’t babysit! We parent!

08.19

3 Things we need to teach our kids

I like myself

I can think for myself

There is no problem that can’t be solved or overcome

08.17

We need to teach our kids how to think not what to think.

08.15

You can’t control anyone who is bigger than you or has a bigger mouth.

08.15

Winning at parenting without beating your kids.

Not corporal punishment, but power struggles

08.14

30 hour course in 1.5 hours!

08.11

Prizes
Farthest Traveled
Shortest Traveled
Kids closest in age

Announcements

08.03

Welcome and Introductions

13.30

All Done

13.30

What can we do to encourage play?

Play with them
Don’t over schedule
Leave them alone (supervised)
Make things fun

13.10

Anything around the house can be a toy… not everything around the house _should_ be a toy

13.02

Activity time!

13.02

20140919_135749

12.56

Smart phones and tablets do NOT provide practice for fine motor skills/ pinch grip

12.54

Screens:
If you are present, engaged, interactive; screens are not bad
If you use it as a babysitter, that’s not good.

12.52

Is an iPhone a good toy?

Depends:

length of time
supervision
laziness
if it’s appropriate

No:

no imagination
physical world is better
can impact sleep cycle
bounded
they can break it

12.48

What makes a good toy?

1. Engaging
2. Safe
3. Well build
4. Fun
5. Age and Child appropriate
6. Multiuse

12.46

Play:

1. Comes from within
2. No outcomes expected
3. No right or wrong
4.
5. It’s a right

12.39

todaysmeet.com/sahd

Interactive chat room.

12.35

5 Practices to help kids grow.

Talk
Read
Write
Sing
Play

12.31

Very important to read/talk to babies in the womb.

12.26

About the age of 7, that speed starts to pick up.

12.25

When you give a child (0-6 years) an instruction or ask a question or tell them something, it takes 5-7 seconds to process.

12.14

When our kids make macaroni necklaces, it seems useless, but it is good for fine motor and pinch grip.

12.12

Anything telling a story with a child is “reading”.

12.12

Reading doesn’t mean just sit and read a book.

12.11

Focus on reading

12.10

Alberto Pellicer – Denver Public Library

Play is Serious Business

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Opening Session – 19th Annual At Home Dads Convention

September 19, 2014

10.02

Tao of parenting.

Time
Attention
Optimism

10.01

Kids are life yearning for itself.

We do not want to control our children’s will.

09.59

Punishment is done to a child, discipline is a process.

09.54

I am I, you are Thou. Celebrate our common humanity.

09.49

“That comment was beneath your intelligence.”

09.47

Tongue Fu! by Sam Horn

Assertiveness Training

09.43

Nothing justifies meanness.

09.42

Scorpion TV Show – Monday Night, CBS
Kids who are different in their brilliance.

09.38

Depression:

Read this! http://time.com/3106170/robin-williams-dead-dick-cavett-suicide-depression/

09.25

In a technological age, kids need to be:

Cyber savvy
Cyber civil
Cyber safe

09.24

Teach kids manners not etiquette.

09.23

Don’t be discriminatory:

Tell kids to “Stand strong” not “Stand Tall”.

09.21

Do good because good is good to do.

09.17

It’s a short walk from schoolyard bullying, to harassment, to genocide.

09.15

The best compliment you can give a child is “Thank you”.

09.14

Three Cs of feedback for kids.

Comments

Compliment

Constructive Criticism

09.10

Big C and three R’s

CHORES

rest / relaxation
recreation (re create yourself)
rebellion

09.06

With toddlers/preschoolers, provide healthy foods in good quantities. Let them eat what they want from that supply.

Don’t force feed. Don’t make them finish.

09.01

Find at least one meal a day to celebrate with your kids!

08.59

Allowance is for one reason:

So kids can learn how to spend money, save money, and give to those who have less than you have.

08.54

Bribes and threats, rewards and punishments bankrupt the spirit of children.

08.54

The kid who needs a party the most, is the one who doesn’t earn it.

08.53

If the worst thing you can call a boy is “sissy” or “girly”, what is that teaching our boys about girls?

08.47

Sexual bullying is the number one form in middle school, high school, university, and the workplace.

What’s the root cause? Misogyny.

08.42

We need to be playful.

08.37

Three Tennants

Kids are worth it

If I wouldn’t want it done to me, I won’t do it to a child.

If it works, it must leave my dignity and the child’s dignity in tact.

08.36

If a parenting tool doesn’t work for you, don’t use it.

08.36

Where are you coming from philosophically, as a dad?

08.33

All I can do in an hour and a half is irritate you, but that’s what I want. I want to irritate you like an oyster. When an oyster gets irritated it either creates a pearl or dies.

08.28

Strong willed children are easier in the later teen years because they think for themselves.

08.26

Give kids age appropriate, ability appropriate choices

08.25

we want

responsible, resourceful, compassionate human beings

how do we do it?

08.24

Dads don’t babysit! We parent!

08.19

3 Things we need to teach our kids

I like myself

I can think for myself

There is no problem that can’t be solved or overcome

08.17

We need to teach our kids how to think not what to think.

08.15

You can’t control anyone who is bigger than you or has a bigger mouth.

08.15

Winning at parenting without beating your kids.

Not corporal punishment, but power struggles

08.14

30 hour course in 1.5 hours!

08.11

Prizes
Farthest Traveled
Shortest Traveled
Kids closest in age

Announcements

08.03

Welcome and Introductions

13.30

All Done

13.30

What can we do to encourage play?

Play with them
Don’t over schedule
Leave them alone (supervised)
Make things fun

13.10

Anything around the house can be a toy… not everything around the house _should_ be a toy

13.02

Activity time!

13.02

20140919_135749

12.56

Smart phones and tablets do NOT provide practice for fine motor skills/ pinch grip

12.54

Screens:
If you are present, engaged, interactive; screens are not bad
If you use it as a babysitter, that’s not good.

12.52

Is an iPhone a good toy?

Depends:

length of time
supervision
laziness
if it’s appropriate

No:

no imagination
physical world is better
can impact sleep cycle
bounded
they can break it

12.48

What makes a good toy?

1. Engaging
2. Safe
3. Well build
4. Fun
5. Age and Child appropriate
6. Multiuse

12.46

Play:

1. Comes from within
2. No outcomes expected
3. No right or wrong
4.
5. It’s a right

12.39

todaysmeet.com/sahd

Interactive chat room.

12.35

5 Practices to help kids grow.

Talk
Read
Write
Sing
Play

12.31

Very important to read/talk to babies in the womb.

12.26

About the age of 7, that speed starts to pick up.

12.25

When you give a child (0-6 years) an instruction or ask a question or tell them something, it takes 5-7 seconds to process.

12.14

When our kids make macaroni necklaces, it seems useless, but it is good for fine motor and pinch grip.

12.12

Anything telling a story with a child is “reading”.

12.12

Reading doesn’t mean just sit and read a book.

12.11

Focus on reading

12.10

Alberto Pellicer – Denver Public Library

Play is Serious Business

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